I added a new button in the Chat window which will show you only the girls who you have pending chat messages from.
Took me a moment to figure out where to place the button so let me know if you recommend a different location or a differently designed button. The button appears as the scroll arrows disappear so you’ll have to start a scroll to show it and only if there are pending messages. Clicking the button will remove all the Chat buttons except for those girls which you have pending messages.
Hope this helps. Of course, you could also just click the girl’s name directly above the Chat window in the “Chat Notification” panel as before.
Suggestions about things you want at the site or anything you want changed, just let me know.